November 7, 2009 by cggirl
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So here is my first webisode. My amazing friend talks about the pressure to have kids “before its too late”. (I don’t know if she wants to be named so until I know for sure, I’m not mentioning it.)
I get that kind of pressure all the time just from random questions and comments from strangers, friends and family alike. Especially when I visit Israel. But shouldn’t our doctors be less judgmental, and not put so much pressure on us? I mean, if I’m not asking my doctor about this, I don’t expect a lecture. And if I ask, or if for some reason the doctor is concerned, perhaps there is a place for gently asking your patient how she feels about things, what her reasons are and her plans, and maybe ask her if she’d like some information or something like that, instead of just volunteering all this pressure. And if they think it’s “irresponsible” to wait, well, irresponsible toward whom? And isn’t the alternative the truly irresponsible thing, if you don’t feel you’re ready? I don’t have all the answers, I just think these are interesting questions, and I appreciate my friend’s openness in discussing this.
Note: More webisodes will come, starring this same friend. She’s awesome and allowed me to film her many times, and share all this intimate stuff with the whole world. I hope you find it interesting to get to know her and see her story unfold, and see things progress and change over time.
And to the point of thisĀ particular webisode, I wonder – does anyone else think it’s rude and scary for a doctor to react this way? Has anyone else experienced such things, either from doctors or from other people in your life?